I was super pissed with my cousin and I only simmered down after I called my dad and the relevant party to complain about him. I think he has serious working attitude problem. Though I am not really that close to him, I feel he should have never use that attitude to me, be it I am his younger cousin or his client.
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I do feel bad complaining about him. Afterall, he is my relative but I think he had gone overboard. Though things will be made terribly ugly, I do not regret my choice. I want to let him and the rest of the relatives know WE ARE NO PUSHOVER.
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Since my mum is from Malaysia, we have few relatives here. My dad has only 3 elder sisters and 1 younger brother. The younger brother is perpetually missing and I didn't know about his existence till I was 12? We hardly have family gatherings except on CNY and on the death anniversaries of my grandparents. Strictly speaking, this extended family is never really close but I did once hold them close to my heart cause they were the only few relatives we have.
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Since my dad is one of the younger one, the elder sisters are always 'looking after' him. Since my brother and I are the youngest, we are the 'perpetual children'. I am at least 10 years apart from the next youngest cousin. I guess our whole family is regarded as the youngest of the lot and that is why they are always 'protecting' us. When I was younger (as in before I started working), I thought they were nice relatives caring for our family. Slowly, I realised they are just imposing their unreasonable views on us, wanting us to listen to them for every single thing. Even holiday trips are not that enjoyable (especially for Mum) cause they will control and restrain what Mum wants to buy. What business is it of theirs? Mum is not even spending their money and she is a mature adult who can make her very own decisions.
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Though my brother and I had grown up, my cousins never see us as equals. We may be at least 10 years in difference but we may have achieved more than them. My last contact with the entire extended side was this CNY and I vowed to myself that I will never want to see them again, not even during CNY. Of course, I didn't tell my parents cause it will only make things difficult for them. However, I must really say they are really bad people who go all out to spoil people's day without sparing a thought for others.
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Now I finally understand why 2 of the sisters fell out years ago over 500 bucks and one of their children was even rude enough to interfere and never fails to make rude remarks about the other aunty during every single gathering. It really takes time to know one's true colour. In actual fact, the snobbish aunty is actually one of the nicer aunty around.
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Sigh~
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I do feel bad complaining about him. Afterall, he is my relative but I think he had gone overboard. Though things will be made terribly ugly, I do not regret my choice. I want to let him and the rest of the relatives know WE ARE NO PUSHOVER.
.
Since my mum is from Malaysia, we have few relatives here. My dad has only 3 elder sisters and 1 younger brother. The younger brother is perpetually missing and I didn't know about his existence till I was 12? We hardly have family gatherings except on CNY and on the death anniversaries of my grandparents. Strictly speaking, this extended family is never really close but I did once hold them close to my heart cause they were the only few relatives we have.
.
Since my dad is one of the younger one, the elder sisters are always 'looking after' him. Since my brother and I are the youngest, we are the 'perpetual children'. I am at least 10 years apart from the next youngest cousin. I guess our whole family is regarded as the youngest of the lot and that is why they are always 'protecting' us. When I was younger (as in before I started working), I thought they were nice relatives caring for our family. Slowly, I realised they are just imposing their unreasonable views on us, wanting us to listen to them for every single thing. Even holiday trips are not that enjoyable (especially for Mum) cause they will control and restrain what Mum wants to buy. What business is it of theirs? Mum is not even spending their money and she is a mature adult who can make her very own decisions.
.
Though my brother and I had grown up, my cousins never see us as equals. We may be at least 10 years in difference but we may have achieved more than them. My last contact with the entire extended side was this CNY and I vowed to myself that I will never want to see them again, not even during CNY. Of course, I didn't tell my parents cause it will only make things difficult for them. However, I must really say they are really bad people who go all out to spoil people's day without sparing a thought for others.
.
Now I finally understand why 2 of the sisters fell out years ago over 500 bucks and one of their children was even rude enough to interfere and never fails to make rude remarks about the other aunty during every single gathering. It really takes time to know one's true colour. In actual fact, the snobbish aunty is actually one of the nicer aunty around.
.
Sigh~
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